SEXY: having attractive, exciting, interesting or appealing qualities
Just like any other embellishments to the human form, self improvement takes time and effort and maintenance. It is so special most people think they cannot afford it. It looks great at any age and transcends all demographics. It is sustainably sexy, the kind of sexy that can grow with you and enhance everything you do in life.
What happens is…
You become more interesting and exciting. The more you understand who you really are and what you really want, you begin to make braver, bolder, and more creative choices. You experience more, want more, and do more.
You become more confident and adaptable. As you begin to know what you stand for and why, you become neither a doormat nor a dictator. You remain loving and honest towards others while still being fully loving and honest with yourself. You have a skill of knowing how to set boundaries without burning bridges.
You become more self sufficient. As you take more responsibility for yourself you stop blaming other people and things for how you feel. You complain less. You have discovered how to be who you really are without anyone’s help, and ironically that has made you more able to give and receive more love than ever before.
You are a more intimate friend. As you learn to let go you will ironically learn to keep better friendships and know how to love without needing things to be perfect. There’s less bickering. Less neediness. Less drama.
You spread more happiness. As you are more happy and loving with yourself, you are more enjoyable to be around for everyone you encounter. This world needs more happy and loving people, so you not only are improving yourself, but also improving the world around you.
You make the most of everything. The less you are burdened by drama and untended inner feelings, you know how to have more fun. You can let go and enjoy life and can be the person who knows how to have a good time despite whatever may be going on in the background.
I’ve always been intrigued by people who just have “it”. They could appear very commonplace until they react to you, smile at you, say something to you…then you just feel it. There’s something about them. Something special and exciting and untouchable.
“It” can be cultivated, created, honed.
There’s something utterly endearing yet stimulating about someone who has self-love yet are vulnerable in a way that takes courage and inner strength. It’s that balance that catches the attention and makes an immediate connection.
When you’re turned on to the love and knowledge of who you really are, you live in a more turned on way.
That is rare. That is special. That is sexy.